Monday, June 12, 2023

Know how to not look like a victim.

This is different from being the "Gray Man."

By Tim Gamble

Crime is spiraling out of control, and not just in the big cities. Woke DAs going easy on criminals, moral collapse, massive illegal immigration, mental illness, a growing entitlement mentality, and economic problems are a perfect storm making everywhere unsafe. In a world where everyone is a potential victim, how do you avoid looking like a victim to the bad guys?

Think like a bad guy for a minute. What are you looking for? First and foremost you want an easy mark. After all, you don't want to get caught, hurt, or killed. Of course, you would like a victim with a lot of value, so that is on your mind too, but only secondarily. So you'll happily take the easy $20 from the apparent pushover instead of the $200 from the tough dude that looks like he can easily handle himself in a fight. Of course, your dream victim is the easy prey that also looks rich. You live for those targets.

Keeping this in mind, your quest to not be a victim has two main tactics. First, and most important, you must avoid looking like an easy victim to the bad guy. Second, you must avoid looking like a rich victim to the bad guy. 

How To Avoid Looking Like An Easy Mark 

What specifically can make you appear like an easy mark to a bad guy?
  • Not paying attention. Most people simply don't pay attention to what's going on around them. They are focused on their phones, engrossed in their I-Pods, or simply walking about absorbed in their thoughts, rather than paying attention to their surroundings. This makes them very vulnerable.
  • Lack of self-confidence. People who lack self-confidence give off an obvious vibe. They slouch, keep their heads down, rarely look right at people, never make eye-contact, and seem to purposely ignore their surroundings. They just want to be unseen, which ironically makes them highly visible to the bad guys. 
  • Looking unable to defend yourself. Whether you have physical infirmities, are grossly overweight or out-of-shape, or simply carrying an armload of  packages while wearing high heels, if you look like you cannot defend yourself, the bad guys will take notice.
  • Loners. A lone pedestrian or shopper looks like a much easier target than someone with a group of people. 
  • Cover of darkness. Darkness, whether the literal darkness of night or the metaphorical darkness of an isolated or hidden place, gives the bad guy great confidence that they can "get the drop on you" and get away without being seen by other people.
Here are some things to do:
  • Learn and practice situational awareness (read this article please)
  • Don't get distracted by your phone or anything else (pay attention)
  • Walk confidently, head up, and make it obvious you are looking at your surroundings
  • Take a self-defense course (it will also improve your self-confidence)
  • Improve your health & fitness
  • Wear practical shoes, clothes
  • Travel, walk, shop in groups
  • Park in a highly visible, well-light location near the entrance
How To Avoid Looking Like A High-Value Target

What makes you appear to be a high-value target?
  • Observable value. Are you wearing flashy or expensive clothing? Wearing an expensive watch or jewelery? Driving an expensive car? Living in an expensive neighborhood? Bad guys will take note.
  • Observable behavior. Did you just visit an ATM? Or walk out of a bank? Then bad guys may assume you now have some extra cash on you. Did you flash a wad of cash while paying for something? Nearby bad guys took note. Did you get cash back from the cashier while shopping? Those people in line around you saw the cashier hand you the cash. Think about your actions, what you are actually doing at the moment, and how those actions may appear to a bad guy.
Here are some things to do:
  • Don't wear expensive clothing and accessories, especially when noticeably nicer than what other people are wearing around you. 
  • Don't drive an expensive car, especially in or near bad areas of town
  • Be careful to not let others see how much money you have on you (especially true whenever you take out your wallet to pay for something)
  • Pay special attention to your surroundings when you are at or just left a bank or ATM, or after getting cash back at a store (watch especially for people who may be following you)

Will Your Footwear Mark You as A Victim?  Possibly. Many people today wear shoes that are either very fashionable (high heels, slick Italian loafers) or super comfortable (sandals, crocs, flip-flops). This is true for both men and women, young folks and older folks, too. I am astonished by the number of older men (50s and beyond) who wear flip-flops, crocs, or various types of other man-sandals practically everywhere they go. I am sure they are comfortable, but they offer no real protection, and are difficult to run in. The bad guys know this. Folks, there is a time and place for fashion or comfort, but when you are out in public, I urge you to choose practical shoes over fashion or comfort. 

*** You can find Tim Gamble on social media! Follow at Gab (@TimGamble), Twitter (@TimGambleSpeaks), and TruthSocial (@TimGambleSpeaks)

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  1. My wife says I walk like a pissed-off gorilla. She secretly videoed I walk confidently while be situational aware. I don't drag my knuckles....much. I'm not a tall person, think Hobbit, 5 foot even on a good day. But I bench 250 and squat 275-280.
    My dress is low key. Jeans, polo shirt, low-hiker shoes. I don't do flashy or expensive, I'm a cheap bastard (frugal). I don't use ATMs so no worries there. Many times I'm alone. But my "pissed-off Gorilla" walk presence says, "Do you feel luck....punk....well do ya?" I have a cell phone but my nose is never buried in it.

    What Tim wrote are great tips. To me the most important is Situational Awareness. If you're clueless as to what is going on around're toast.

    1. Thanks for the comments. Sounds like y'all keeping safe. Good work!


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